Divorce season is nearly upon us
More divorces are filed in January and February than in any of the other months of the year. Being stranded in a bad marriage during the holiday season many spouses find themselves moving into the New Year determined to never spend another Christmas in their marriages. This is sad, but unfortunately a reality of the world we live in. Unfortunately in many instances, divorce doesn’t end suffering, it actually doubles suffering.
In practical terms, the big “D” means one house becomes two houses with all the expense it takes of running both. In other words the income that it took to maintain one home will now have to somehow cover the expense of maintaining two households.
One can argue that divorce is basically trading one set of problems for another, unless you educate yourself and navigate the process in such a way that it cuts down the expense and is fair to all involved.
Divorces in January annually dramatically escalate, this is often because of spouses being compelled to spend time together on holiday and during this period they scrutinise and evaluate their relationship and come to the conclusion that they are completely incompatible.
Couples who marry at a young age are most likely to divorce. Among 25 to 29 year-olds, the rate is more than twice as high as people in older age groups.
Finances also cause domestic arguments and put a strain on any relationship, potentially resulting in divorce. However, having said that many couples looking to divorce are being forced to stay together under the same roof due to the lack of movement in the housing market and because some simply can’t afford to go through divorce proceedings.
A typical marriage these days in the UK will last for 10 years. By contrast, a cohabiting relationship is likely to last only two or three years before the couple either marry or break up.
South African Statistics on Divorce
In 2010, 170 826 civil marriages of South African citizens and permanent residents were registered. This number includes 3 830 (2,2%) marriages of South African citizens and permanent residents that were solemnised outside the borders of South Africa but subsequently registered in South Africa.
In 2010, data on 22 936 divorces from civil marriages were processed, indicating a drop-off 7 827 or 25,4% from the 30 763 cases processed in 2009. The distribution of couples divorcing by population group shows that the highest proportion of divorces between 2001 and 2007 came from the white population group followed by the black African population group. In 2001, 43,2% of the divorcees were from the white population group whereas 23,1% came from the African black group. However, from 2008 to 2010, the pattern changed. The black African population exhibited the highest proportion of divorces followed by the white population group. Thus 35,6% of the 2010 divorcees came from the African black population group and 30,5% from the white group. The proportions of the coloured and the Indian/Asian groups were quite variable during the ten year period.
In 2010 there were more female 11 309 (49,3%) than male 7 999 (34,9%) initiating divorce. The population group was unspecified in 15,8% of divorces. With the exception of females from the black African population group who had a lower proportion of plaintiffs compared to males, the proportion of female plaintiffs from the other population groups was above 50,0%. For example, 39,5% of black African plaintiffs were females compared to 57,6% female white plaintiffs.
In 2010 divorce cases for both males and females were mainly from people who had married once. About 80,0% of divorces for males and females were from first marriages compared to approximately 10,0% from second time marriages. About 2,0% of males and females were getting divorced for at least the third time.
The median age at divorce in 2010 was 41 years for males and 38 years for females. The median age for males was down from 42 years in 2009 but that of females remained unchanged. This indicates that males generally divorced at older ages than females, with a difference of about three years in 2010. The pattern of median age by population group and sex in 2010 was basically the same as that observed in 2009 where black African males had the highest median age (44 years) at the time of divorce and females from the Indian/Asian group had the lowest median age (35 years) at the time of divorce. Furthermore, the 2010 data for black African women (38 years) show a drop of one year from 39 years in 2009 whereas the ages for white males and females had increased by one year from 41 and 38 years to 42 and 39 years respectively.
Although there are differences in the ages at which most males and females from the various population groups divorced, the age patterns are quite similar. The data reveal that there were fewer divorces among the young (less than 25 years old) and the old (55 years and older). For male divorcees, the peak age group at divorce was 35–39 for each of the population groups with the exception of the black Africans which peaked at 40–44. In the case of females, the peak age group was 35–39 for each of the population groups except the Indian/Asian group that peaked at 30-34 and the mixed group that did not show and particular pattern
2010 indicate that the largest number 5 989 (27,3%) of the divorces lasted between five and nine years. This group is followed by marriages that lasted less than five years 4 577 (20,9%). Thus, almost half (47,7%) of the 22 936 divorces in 2010 were marriages that lasted less than 10 years.
In 2010, 12 486 (54,4%) of the 22 936 divorces had children younger than 18 years. The proportions of divorces with children were quite high among the coloured population group (64,9%), black Africans(58,0%) and the Indians/Asians (55,4%). The distribution of the number of children affected by divorce shows that 37,9% were from the black African population group; 27,6% from the white population group and 17,3% from the coloured population group. Overall, there were 20 383 children (younger than 18 years old) involved in divorce indicating that, on the average, there was between one and two children per divorce.
Statistics courtesy of Stats SA
About the Author
Bertus Preller is a Divorce Attorney in Cape Town and has more than 20 years experience in most sectors of the law and 13 years as a practicing attorney. He specializes in Family law and Divorce Law at Abrahams and Gross Attorneys Inc. in Cape Town. Bertus is also the Family Law expert on Health24.com and on the expert panel of Law24.com and is frequently quoted on Family Law issues in newspapers such as the Sunday Times and Business Times and magazines such as Noseweek, You and Huisgenoot, and also appeared on SABC television on the 3 Talk TV show. His clients include artists, celebrities, sports people and high networth individuals. His areas of expertise are Divorce Law, Family Law, Divorce Mediation, Parenting Plans, Parental Responsibilities and Rights, Custody (care and contact) of children, same sex marriages, unmarried fathers rights, domestic violence matters, international divorce law, digital rights, media law and criminal law.
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